Obedience To The Husband


Obedience To The Husband

Islam has given woman rights and imposed on her some obligations. One of the most significant rights is that of her husband over her. The husband is your Paradise or your Hellfire; that is, if you obey him you will enter Paradise, and if you disobey him you will enter Hellfire. The following are Ahaadith which order a woman to obey her husband:

The Prophet sallaallaahu alayhi wa sallaam said:

When a woman observes her five obligatory prayers, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any gate of Paradise she wishes.

Reported by Ibn Hibban, al-Bazzaar, Imam Ahmed Ibn Hanbal, at-Tabarani and al-Baani.

The Prophet sallaallaahu alayhi wa sallaam said:

If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter Paradise.

Reported by at-Tirmidhi.

The Prophet sallaallaahu alayhi wa sallaam said:

If a husband calls his wife to his bed (to have sexual relations) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the Angels will curse her till morning.” In another naration “…until he is happy with her.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3065; Muslim, 1436)

The Prophet sallaallaahu alayhi wa sallaam said:

If I were to order anyone to prostrate himself before another, I should order a woman to prostrate herself before her husband.

Reported by at-Tirmidhi and Ibn Hibban.

When the Prophet sallaallaahu alayhi wa sallaam was asked which woman was best he replied,

The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves.

Reported by at-Tirmidhi, an-Nasa’i’ and al-Bayhaqi.

A woman approached the Prophet sallaallaahu alayhi wa sallaam informing him that she intends to marry her cousin , and asked what the rights of her husband would be over her, to which he replied,

Were you to lick the snot off of his nose, even then you would not have given him his full rights he has over you.” At which the woman replied, “In that case, I do not wish to get married!

Reported by Ahmad, Al-Bazaar and Silsilat As-Saheeha.

Anas (radiya Allahu ‘anh), that the Messenger of Allah (salla Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:

It is not permissible for a human being to prostrate to another human being. Were it permissible for a human being to prostrate to another human being, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband because of his great right upon her. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if he (the husband) had, from his feet to the top of his head, an ulcer oozing blood and pus, and she came to lick it off for him, she would not have fulfilled his right.

[Recorded in Ahmad and al-Nasa’i, verified as authentic by al-Albani in Sahih al-Jami’ no.7725]

There is another similar narration on Abu Sa’id al-Khudri (radiya Allahu ‘anh), that the Messenger of Allah (salla Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:

A husband’s right upon his wife is such that if he had an ulcer and she licked it for him, she would not fulfil his right by that.

[Recorded in al-Hakim and Ibn Hibban, verified as authentic by al-Albani in Sahih al-Jami’ no. 3148]

The hadith is authentic according to shaykh al Albani rahimahullah.

Atee’ullah wa atee’ar-rasool. Sami’na wa ata’na
Obey Allah and Obey his Messenger. Indeed we hear, and we obey.

This is an emphasis of the right of the husband over his wife.

12 Responses to “Obedience To The Husband”

  1. Abdullaah Says:

    salaams,

    I wish my wife knew this!

  2. afghansister Says:

    — —— ——– —- — —– —

    EDIT: No unnecessary talking between brothers and sisters

  3. “The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves.”

    Do such women exist?

    And why the strict obedience thing?

    • “Do such women exist?”

      I hope so… lol

    • 'Abdul ''Azeez Says:

      Strictness is needed to keep women in control.

      Otherwise they just go off freely breaking ur gheerah, chatting to every man they see!

      Women need to learn how to treat their husbands well as obedience to him is the road to Paradise.

      Unfortunately, women know nothing of this!

      These MANLY women of the 21st century know nothing of obedience!

    • 'Abdul ''Azeez Says:

      Hell do such women exist!

      Maybe only one in every thousand!

      No wonder why the majority of women will be in HELL! For disobedience and disloyalty to their husbands!

      No man is out there looking for a MAN as a wife!

      • Anonymous Says:

        Salaam alaykom akhi,

        Let’s try not to generalize women and make them sound like they’re so filthy and unworthy of any goodness. Why don’t we be educators and be the gentlemen that will bring about softness and submissiveness in our women. Why don’t we be the protectors we were meant to be and protect the honor and status of our women?

        Let’s not have that tone when we address our womenfolk. There are many amazing women out there. Women who gave birth to us and the many other amazing men out there.

        Treat them with harshness and speak with aggression and boldness and you will find the ugliness in them.

        But treat them with kindness and capture their heart with soft words and you will find the beauty and light in them.

        May Allah grant you a beautiful, pious and loving wife who will give you many beautiful and healthy children.

  4. Judging by what has been quoted in the above hadith’s it seems that most women will be entering Jahanam. May Allah protect them and give them hidayah. Ameen.

  5. I just want to say that all the posts I’ve read about obedience to husbands are great and all muslim women should know these hadith. I also want to say that i’m disappointed in the men posting here about their wives and if they want their wives to know things they should communicate with them, not insinuate about their wives being disobedient. It makes me feel bad as a wife. Please do not delete this comment as it has merit.

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