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Beautiful Narration: “I Had Sexual Relations With My Wife While Observing The Ramadhaan Fast.”

Posted in Adab (Manners), Brothers Base, Inspirational Stories, Marriage, Miscellaneous, Ramadhaan, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 31, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Beautiful Narration: “I Had Sexual Relations With My Wife While Observing The Ramadhaan Fast.”

بَيْنَمَا نَحْنُ جُلُوسٌ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِذْ جَاءَهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ هَلَكْتُ قَالَ مَا لَكَ قَالَ وَقَعْتُ عَلَى امْرَأَتِي وَأَنَا صَائِمٌ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ هَلْ تَجِدُ رَقَبَةً تُعْتِقُهَا قَالَ لا قَالَ فَهَلْ تَسْتَطِيعُ أَنْ تَصُومَ شَهْرَيْنِ مُتَتَابِعَيْنِ قَالَ لا فَقَالَ فَهَلْ تَجِدُ إِطْعَامَ سِتِّينَ مِسْكِينًا قَالَ لا قَالَ فَمَكَثَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَبَيْنَا نَحْنُ عَلَى ذَلِكَ أُتِيَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بِعَرَقٍ فِيهَا تَمْرٌ وَالْعَرَقُ الْمِكْتَلُ ( وهو الزنبيل الكبير ) قَالَ أَيْنَ السَّائِلُ فَقَالَ أَنَا قَالَ خُذْهَا فَتَصَدَّقْ بِهِ فَقَالَ الرَّجُلُ أَعَلَى أَفْقَرَ مِنِّي يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَوَ اللَّهِ مَا بَيْنَ لابَتَيْهَا يُرِيدُ الْحَرَّتَيْنِ أَهْلُ بَيْتٍ أَفْقَرُ مِنْ أَهْلِ بَيْتِي فَضَحِكَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ حَتَّى بَدَتْ أَنْيَابُهُ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَطْعِمْهُ أَهْلَكَ ) رواه البخاري فتح

While we were sitting in the company of Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) a man approached and said: “O Messenger of Allah! I’m ruined!

The Prophet said: “What is the matter?

He said: “I had sexual relations with my wife while observing the Ramadan fast.

Allah’s Messenger then asked him: “Can you find a slave whom you can free?” He said “No“. “Then, are you able to fast for two consecutive months?” He said “No“. “Then, do you have the wherewithal to feed 60 poor people?” He said “No“.

So the Prophet (peace be upon him) stopped and considered, and we waited like that until a large basket of dates was brought to him. He asked: “Where is that questioner?

The man spoke up: “Here I am.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Take this and give it out in charity.

The man then asked: “Messenger of Allah, must I find someone poorer than myself to give it to? By Allah, there is no household in town poorer than my own.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) laughed until we could see his teeth, the said: “Go feed your family.

This hadîth is related by Abû Hurayrah in Sahîh al-Bukhârî (1936) and Sahîh Muslim (1111).


A point to be noted is that the Messenger of Allah did not ask the female whom he had sexual relations with to also do any of these acts (fast, feed the poor etc), so a woman is free from such compensations, and Allaah knows best.


Al-Hamdu-Lillaah For Islam And The Sunnah

Posted in Biddah / Innovation, Brothers Base, Hadith Studies, Knowledge, Methodology Of The Salaf, Miscellaneous, Qur'an with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 30, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Al-Hamdu-Lillaah For Islam And The Sunnah

Shaikh Khalid Ar-Raddadee (hafidhahumullaah) remind us to reflect upon Allaah guiding us to Sunnah while many are astray.

Shaikh Khalid Ar-Raddadee (hafidhahullaah) said:

Qala ba’du Salaf: La adri ayu ni’mataini ‘alaya a’dhaam, ni’matu an hadani Allaahu ‘azza wa jall min bain al-adyaan jami’ah li din il Islam aw ni’amtu an hadani Allaahu ‘azza wa jall min bayni al-madhaahib wal firaq ila Sunnah. Fahumma ni’matan ‘Adhimataan – ni’matu il Islam wa Sunnah


Some of the Salaf said: I don’t know which of the two blessings upon me is greater, the blessing that Allaah ‘azza wa jall guided me to Islam from amongst all the religions, or the blessing that Allaah ‘azza wa jall guided me to the Sunnah from amongst all the groups, sects. They are two great blessings: the blessing of Islam and the Sunnah.

Shaikh Ar-Raddadee added that a man came to Imam Ahmad (rahimahullaah) and said: “Al-Hamdulillaahi ‘alal Islam (All Praise is for Allaah, for Islam)”. Imam Ahmad said: “Bal Qul Al-Hamdulillaahi ‘alal Islam wa Sunnah [Rather say, All Praise is for Allaah, for Islam and the Sunnah].


Israeli Soldiers ‘Used Child To Check For Booby-Traps’

Posted in Brothers Base, Politics with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 30, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Israeli Soldiers ‘Used Child To Check For Booby-Traps’

[24 Mar 2010]

Two Israeli soldiers have been accused of using a nine-year-old Palestinian boy to check for booby-traps during last year’s Gaza war.

The staff sergeants in the Givati infantry brigade have been charged with acting “in breach of military norms” by forcing the child at gunpoint to open bags they believed might be rigged with explosives.

The child, identified only as “Majd R”, said he feared for his life.

I thought they would kill me. I became very scared and wet my pants,” he said in an affidavit to Geneva-based children’s group, Defence for Children International.

There were two bags in front of me. I grabbed the first one as he stood one and a half metres away. I opened the bag as he pointed his weapon directly at me. I emptied the bag on the floor. It contained money and papers. I looked at him and he was laughing.

One of the defendants, who have not been identified, said in an army radio interview he felt he and his comrade were being made scapegoats in the face of international criticism of Israel’s offensive, in which about 1,400 Palestinians were killed, among them 400 children.

They were looking for someone to blame in front of the entire world,” the soldier said. “Sadly it was people who really didn’t do anything.

The military said that it began its investigation of the incident in June. It said the probe was unrelated to a UN fact-finding mission which was visiting the Gaza Strip at the same time.

The UN mission, headed by South African former judge Richard Goldstone, later filed a report which concluded that both the Israeli military and Palestinian militants committed war crimes during the 22-day offensive launched on December 27, 2008.

Thirteen Israelis were killed during the war, which Israel launched in response to rocket and mortar attacks from the Islamist Hamas-ruled Gaza Strip.


The Way To Paradise Is Very Hard

Posted in Brothers Base, Dunya | Aakhirah, Miscellaneous with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 30, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

The Way To Paradise Is Very Hard

Paradise is very high, and ascending lofty places takes a great deal of effort. The way to Paradise is filled with things that go against human wishes and inclinations. This needs strong determination and willpower.

In a hadith narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim from Abu Hurayrah (ra) the Messenger of Allah (saw) said: “Hell has been veiled with desires, and Paradise has been veiled with [surrounded by] hardships.”

An-Nasaa’ee, at-Tirmidhi, and Abu Dawud report from Abu Hurayrah (ra) that the Messenger of Allah (saw) said, “When Allah created Paradise, He told Jibreel, “Go look at it”. So he went and looked at it, then he came back and said, “By Your Glory, no-one will hear of it but he will enter it”. So He surrounded it with hardships and said, “Go and look at it”. So he went and looked at it, then came back and said, “By Your Glory, I fear that no-one will enter it“. [Jaami al-Usool, 10/520, 8068]

An-Nawawi commented on the first hadith:

“This is an example of the beautiful, eloquent and concise speech which the Prophet (saw) was capable, in which he gives a beautiful analogy. It means that nothing will help you to reach Paradise except going through hardships, and nothing will lead you to Hell, but whims and desires. Both are veiled as described, and whoever tears down the veil will reach what was hidden behind it. The veil of Paradise is torn down by going through hardships and the veil of Hell is torn down by giving in to whims and desires. Hardship including striving consistently and patiently in worship, restraining one’s anger, forgiving, being patient, giving in charity, being kind to those who mistreat you, resisting physical desires, etc”

[Sharh an-Nawawi ‘ala Muslim, 17/165]

The Mahr (Dowry) Should Be A Small Amount

Posted in Adab (Manners), Marriage, Parenting, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , on March 29, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

The Mahr (Dowry) Should Be A Small Amount

[QUESTION]: I and many others have observed that many people are very excessive when it comes to the matter of the mahr (wedding dowry that is paid to the bride), and that they seek great amounts of mahr when it comes to the marriage of their daughters, and they stipulate as a condition the giving of other gifts to them, along with the mahr. This wealth that people demand in such cases, is it halaal (lawful) or haraam (unlawful)?

[ANSWER]: What is prescribed in the Sharee’ah is that the mahr should be a small amount and that people should not compete with each other in this regard, acting in accordance with the many ahaadeeth which are related about this. They should also help facilitate marriages and be keen in preserving the modesty and decency of the young Muslim men and women. And it is not permissible for the awliyaa (guardians of the brides-to-be) to demand and stipulate gifts for themselves, since they have no right at all in this matter. Rather the right belongs to the woman, and in some particular cases to the father. He may stipulate a condition as long as it does not harm the daughter, nor lead to the delaying of the marriage. However, if the father forgoes such a right then this is better and more preferable.

Allaah – the One free from all defects – says: “And marry those amongst you who are single and also marry the pious of your male and female slaves. If they be poor, Allaah will enrich them out of His Bounty.” [Soorah an-Noor 24:32].

In the hadeeth of ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir radiallaahu ‘anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “The best dowry is that which is easy.” This was narrated by Abu Daawood and al-Haakim who authenticated it.

And once a woman offered herself to the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam for marriage. However, one of his Companions desired to marry her, so the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said [regarding the mahr]: “Bring something, even if it be an iron ring.” So when he could not find even this, the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam married them for the dowry that the man would teach whatever of the Qur’aan he knew to her. 2

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Ibn Taymiyyah’s Attitude Upon Entering Prison

Posted in Brothers Base, Miscellaneous, Words Of Wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 28, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Ibn Taymiyyah’s Attitude Upon Entering Prison

It was related that when Ibn Taymiyyah was being transported by the ruler’s representative to prison in Alexandria, a bystander saw him and said: “My master, this is the time for patience.

So, Ibn Taymiyyah looked at him and replied: “Rather, this is the time to be thankful. By Allah, such joy and happiness are descending upon my heart at this moment that if it was divided between the people of Sham and Egypt, there would be some left over, and if I had that amount in gold and distributed it, it would not equal even a tenth of the blessing that I am experiencing.

Later on, on Monday the 6th of the month of Sha’ban 726 AH, he was again arrested on orders from the ruler, and was ordered transferred to the Citadel Prison in Damascus. When he first learned of this, he said: “I was waiting for this, and this contains great benefit.” When he was later in the prison, he said: “If this prison was exchanged for its weight in gold, I would not consider this to be enough to repay this blessing I am in and the good that it has brought me.

When he entered the grounds of the Citadel Prison in Damascus, he stood and looked at its walls, reciting the verse: “…So a wall will be put up between them with a gate therein. Inside it will be mercy, and from the outside, it will be torment.” [al-Hadid; 13]

[Ibn ‘Abd al-Hadi’s ‘al-‘Uqud ad-Durriyyah’; p. 177-178, 365,p. 44 Ibn al-Qayyim’s ‘al-Wabil as-Sayyib’]

Women Are Of Four Types – 20 Pieces Of Advice To My Sister Before Marriage

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Women Are Of Four Types – 20 Pieces Of Advice To My Sister Before Marriage

Ibn Hibban narrated in his work Nazahti Al-Fadlaa the advice of Al-Khattaab bin Mu’laa Al-Makhzoomee to his son. At the end of his words he mentioned the following: “Know that women vary more than the fingers of your hand. So be cautious in dealing with them.

Every Evil Women will inevitably harm you:

The First Type:

The woman who is amazed with herself and belittles her husband (27).
If he honors her she sees it not except as a result of her virtue over him (28).
She shows no gratitude for his courtesy. In her eyes he always falls short.
She lashes her tongue out at him like a sharp sword.
Her imprudence has removed the cover of shyness from her face: she is not shy from exposing her faults even when in front of the neighbors (29).
She is like a growling dog with rabies, barking and biting.
Her husband’s face is sad (30), and his honor is violated with the people.
She over burdens him with her bad etiquettes and does not tend to his worldly or religious affairs.
Nor does she uphold her duties towards him in spite of his companionship and the many children they may share;
She doesn’t recognize any good that he does.
His covering is revealed and made public. All the good that he does is buried (31).
He reaches the morning dispirited and enters the evening reprimanding her (32).
His drink is sour. His food is rage. His children are wasted and his house is destroyed (33).
His clothes is filthy and hair dishevel. If he laughs he is worn down (34), and if he speaks he feels sickened. His day is night; his night is misery (35).
She bites him like a vicious snake, and stings like a scorpion.

The Second Type:

From amongst them are: The Shafsha’leeq (The relaxed and lazy woman), Sha’sha (The tall woman), Salfa’a (The blatantly ill-mannered woman), possessor of saturated poison (36), a spark of light yet worn out, she moves with the wind and flies with everyone who has wings (37).
If her husband says “No” she says “Yes,” If he says “Yes” she says “No.”(38).
She is born to disgrace him. She looks down at the good he has done for her (39), and belittles him by comparing him to other men.
She moves him from one state to another, to the point that his home has become insignificant to him and his children have become a source of boredom.
His life festers and he looks down upon himself. His brothers criticize him and his neighbors have mercy on him (40).

The Third Type:

Al-Warhaa (A foolish woman),(41),
Flirtatious when not appropriate, speaks with a slur, and indulges herself in that which does not concern her (42).
She’s content with her love, takes pleasure in his wealth (43), and eats like a grazing donkey.
The sun has risen and he has yet to hear a word from her (44); her food is stale; her pots are stained; her baking dough is sour, her cooking water is lukewarm (45), plants can grow in her belongings (46), she doesn’t engage in the slightest of good deeds (47). She beats her servants and enrages her neighbors (48).

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