Archive for December, 2010

A Dialogue Between A Scholar And An Alcoholic

Posted in Halal & Islamic Funny Stuff, Inspirational Stories, Miscellaneous with tags , , , , , on December 31, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Alcoholic: “Do you think I am doing wrong by eating a date?”

Scholar: “No.”

Alcoholic: “And if I ate with it some Grass?”

Scholar: “There is nothing wrong with that.”

Alcoholic: “And if I was to wash them down with water?”

Scholar: “Drink and enjoy.”

Alcoholic: “Since all of that is permissible, then why do you forbid us from alcohol, which consists of the above mentioned ingredients?”

Scholar: “If I poured water on top of you, would that hurt you?”

Alcoholic: “No it would not.”

Scholar: “And if I was to sprinkle some dirt in that, would you be hurt?”

Alcoholic: “That would not harm me.”

Scholat: “But if I were to mix water and dirt together and through a process make a large brick from those two elements, and then were I to throw that large brick at you, would you be hurt?”

Alcoholic: “That would kill me!”

Scholar: “The same goes for alcohol.”

[Taken from “Gems And Jewels”, p. ?]

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Five Aathaar on Knowledge

Posted in Knowledge, Miscellaneous with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on December 30, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Sufyaan Ath-Thawree, (rahimahullaah), said:

“The excellence of knowledge is due only to the fact that it causes a person to fear and obey Allaah, otherwise it is just like anything else.”

[Related by ibn Rajab]

Al-Hasan al-Basree, (rahimahullaah), said:

“Whoever learns something in the name of Allaah, seeking that which is with Him, he will win. And whoever learns something for other than Allaah, he will not reach the goal, nor will his acquired knowledge bring him closer to Allaah.”

[Related by Ibn ul Jawzee]

Ibn Mas’ood, (radiallaahu ‘anhu), said:

“True knowledge is not measured in relationship to how much you memorize and then narrate, but rather, true knowledge is an expression of piety [protecting oneself from what Allaah prohibited and acting upon what He mandated].”

Ibn Mas’ood, (radiallaahu ‘anhu), also said:

“Study and act upon what you learn.”

[Related by Abu Na`eem]

Abdullah bin Mubarak (rahimahullaah) said:

“We are more in need of a small amount of Adab, than much knowledge.”

10 Things To Hand Down To Your Daughter

Posted in Parenting, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , on December 30, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

(1) Knowledge of and love for Allah and His Deen (Islam):

This is one of the most precious and enduring gifts you can pass down to your daughter, one that will benefit her in this life and the next.

(2) Memorization of the Quran:

No matter how little you have memorized yourself, push your daughter to memorize as much she can. Encourage her and help her to revise. It will stand her in good stead in her life and will be a source of reward for you after your death as well.

(3) A good example of Muslim womanhood:

Most girls look to their mothers for Guidance. Embody the characteristics of a strong, faithful Muslimah and she will be inspired to follow your example.

(4) A sense of self-worth and self-esteem:

Instill a sense of confidence in your child by encouraging her skills, talents and personality to develop. Make her feel secure in her identity and show her that she is loved and appreciated. This will have a positive impact on her future relationships and how she interacts with the world.

(5) A sense of modesty:

Instill a love for Hijab in your daughter and encourage her to be modest, never boastful or conceited, in all areas of her life.

(6) Your language:

If you speak Arabic be sure to teach it to her so that she has the key to the understanding of the Quran. Also, if you have a mother tongue or speak a second language yourself, pass it on: a second or third language is always an asset, whether in study, work or social environment.

(7) A skill that you have:

If you are an avid gardener, knitter or love painting, pass your skill onto your daughter. With so many traditional skills being lost in today’s fast-paced world, you owe it to her to share your knowledge and pass it on to the next generation.

(8) Your favorite recipes:

Yes, teach your daughter how to cook! Be it from a cookbook, an original recipe or passed down from your mother or even your grandmother, we all have our own trademark recipes: pass them on to your daughter and encourage her to develop some specialties of her own.

(9) Housekeeping skills:

Instill good housekeeping habits in all your children and encourage them to take pride in a neat and tidy home. Pass any tricks or shortcuts on so that your daughter is well-equipped when she has a home of her own.

(10) Your family history:

Give her a sense of her roots and heritage by sharing your family story with her. Acquaint her with her family tree and teach her the lessons learned by the different generations. Hopefully, she will do the same with her children, InshaAllah.

O Father, Do Not Reject A Pious Man’s Proposal

Posted in Marriage, Parenting with tags , , , , , , , , , , on December 29, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

The Prophet (saw) said:

When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth and extensive corruption.

[Tirmidhi, Nasa’i & Ibn Majah]

O Fathers, how longer will you keep your daughter ‘locked-in’, awaiting for that doctor to come along with a milllion pounds in his bank account? As the Prophet (saw) (the one you claim to love and folow) said:

When your daughter reaches the age of puberty, look for a suitible partner for her.”

It is sad to see fathers prolong their daughters marriage, until she is in an age where marriage would not be as ‘exciting’ as it would be if she was married earlier. Lkewise, delaying her marriage until she is older only limits the number of proposals that may come to her as:

(a) Most men would now have chosen partners so her ‘choice of men’ is limited.

(b) Men, by nature, are more interested in a woman who is younger than her by a few years, so again, her proposals would not be as many.

So note, that when her proposals and prospects are limited (due to te above two reasons) she ends up marrying a person, who she may only accept because, ‘he will do’ or because she’s got no-one else to choose from.

So the love and compassion is not deeply rooted in such a marriage.

Cheating In Matters Of Marriage

Posted in Marriage with tags , , , , , , , , , , on December 29, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

These are some of the ways in which this cheating is manifested:

1) Some fathers may offer a man who comes to marry one of his daughters his youngest daughter who is still a virgin, then on the wedding night he finds out that he has been given the older, previously-married daughter. Some men can find no escape and no way out from such a marriage.

2) Some fathers and guardians of women show the suitor the daughter who is beautiful, then on the wedding night he finds out that he has been given a different daughter who is ugly, but he has no choice but to accept the situation.

3) Some fathers may conceal some sickness or fault that may be present in the daughter, not telling the suitor so that he may have a clear picture. Then when he goes in unto her on the wedding night he discovers the sickness or fault.

4) Some fathers and guardians of women, if the suitor asks to see the woman – which is permissible so long as the conditions stipulated in Islam are met – give him permission to do so after they fill her face will all kinds of colours and dyes, i.e. “make-up”, so that she will appear beautiful to him, but if he looked at her without that mask of make-up he would not be pleased with her. Is this not cheating which leads to great corruption of the rights of both husband and wife?

5) Some guardians marry off the female under their care without making the effort to find out about the suitor and how religiously committed he is or what his attitude is like. This is a kind of cheating and wrongdoing against the wife.

6) Another kind of cheating in marriage is when the suitor pretends to have what he does not, to make it appear that he is a man of status and that he owns a lot of real estate and cars. He may even go to the extent of hiring a luxury car, spending hundreds of riyals, to give the impression that he owns it, when in fact he does not own anything.

7) Another kind of cheating is when some people praise the suitor before the people whose daughter he wishes to marry, speaking of him in the highest terms and describing him as one who prays and is righteous, even though this suitor does not even know the way to the mosque.

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The ‘Aqeedah Of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdaadee (D. 463H)

Posted in 'Aqeedah with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on December 28, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdaadee (d. 463) said:

“As for the speech about the Attributes of Allaah, that which is authentically related about them in the sunnah, then the way of the Salaf, may Allaah be pleased with them all, was to affirm them as they are ‘alaa dhaahir (upon their apparent meaning), negating any tashbeeh (resemblance) to Allaah (1) and not asking how they are (2).

We do not say that Al-Yad (the Hand of Allaah) means ‘His Power’ nor that As-Sam’ (Allaah’s Hearing) and Al-Basr (Allaah’s Seeing) means ‘His Knowledge’, nor do we say that He has jawaarih (limbs) (3).” (4)

Footnotes:

(1) So we don’t say Allaah’s Hand is like our hand, but we say Allaah’s Hand is unlike our hand.

(2) see this post for more info.

(3) Know this last point very well, as the ash’ariyyah love to try and confuse you via this channel, by saying that by affirming Allaah has a Hand, Face etc. you are saying He has limbs.

(4) Al-Kalaam ‘Alas Sifaat, of Al-Khateeb Al-Baghdaadee, Pp. 19-20

Advice To Musilm Women Regarding Their Husbands, Part 3

Posted in Adab (Manners), Killing The Fitna, Marriage, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , on December 25, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

The righteous wife obeys her husband.

Allah says, describing righteous women:

Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allaah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity and their husbnands property).” [4:34]

Sufyaan ath-Thawree said:

“Qaanitaat (translated here as devoutly obedient) means that they obey Allaah and their husbands.”

[Ibn Jareer 5/38, with a saheeh isnaad]

The Messenger of Allaah was asked as to who was the best of all women, to which he (saw) replied:

The one who obeys (her husband) when she is commanded.

[Al-Nisaa’ee, 6/68, with a saheeh isnaad]

Likewise, the Prophet (saw) said:

When a woman (a) observes her five obligatory prayers, (b) fasts during Ramadan, (c) preserves her chastity and (d) obeys her husband, she may enter Paradise by any gate she wishes.

[Ibn Hibban, al-Bazzaar, Ahmad, at-Tabarani and authenticated by Al-Albaani]

A Quick Note To Sisters Regarding The Whole ‘Obedience’ Thing:

Obedience to the husband is compulsory in all matters except where he asks you to disobey Allaah. Likewise, obedience is a way to achieve hapiness in ones marriage life as no man can be patient over a disobedient wife. Obedience is a good quality, however, at times of disputes when he is angry, that is the time, when one really needs to exercise this obligation.

Although the obedience may seem difficult for some, tough for others, even a struggle for the newly weds, Allaah, The Most Just, The Most Wise, says:

Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: “We believe,” and will not be tested.” [29:2]