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Advice For Brothers Regarding Intimacy

Posted in Brothers Base, Marriage with tags , , , , , on August 26, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

“Women also have desires, emotional and physical. It is not immoral of her to ask for intimacy, it is only her innate nature.”

Introduction: Realize that women also have sexual desires. Although their main desire is emotional, they also have that sexual urge. Don’t ignore this as it could cause her harm. She is not immoral if she asks you for intimacy. Nor is she immoral if its continuous, it just means she has a strong urge for it, and this is the way she is. One of the purposes of marriage is to save ourselves from fitnah. And if you are not responding to her call, then this could cause her major problems. Indeed it could be that by you continuously refusing her call, not only would you damage her, but you could cause her to think of doing the haraam.  So, due to the “boil up” of desire within her, she could start to think about haraam acts. If she has this huge build up of desire which has no halaal avenue, then, when a good looking guy walks past her on the streets or elsewhere, she may start to think of haraam things. And indeed the Shaytaan will use her sexual frustration and exploit it in any possible way. O husbands, realise that by you continuously refusing her call, you could damage her chastity. How sad that she dies of thirst while water was available to her! Just because the Angels do not curse you for not responding to her call to bed, it does not mean you can take the matter lightly. If you want her to respond to your call, then lead by example and respond to her call.

Also, If you expect her to give up what she is doing and come to you for intimacy, then know that her mind will not be on the act, and her sole intention is just to quickly get the act over and done with and then rush back to her chores, which will now take even longer due to her having to do ghusl. And this may cause stress to her, and you! So instead of this downhill slope which has many negative knock-on effects, take into consideration that she may be busy or not in the mood for intimacy.

I will give advice about intimacy in three phases; before intimacy, during intimacy and after intimacy.

Before Intimacy: Know that it is from good manners to dress up for your wife. Ibn Abbaas said: “I love to beautify myself for the wife in the same way that I love for her to beautify herself for me because Allaah said, ‘And they have rights similar to those over them according to what is reasonable.’ [2:228].” [Tafseer Ibn Katheer]

It is a shame how some brothers desire their wives to be in perfect shape and to always look good yet show no concern to their wife’s physical desires. If your wife sees that you are taking care to look after yourself and look appealing to her, then this will naturally make her do the same. Is it logical that you wish your wife to be slim and in shape while you are out of shape and unhealthy?

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Quotes From ‘Alee Ibn Abee Taalib, Part 2

Posted in Miscellaneous on August 22, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

‘Alee Ibn Abee Taalib said:

“Whoever moves a hand span away from the main body of Muslims has gone beyond the pale of Islaam.” [Mussanaf Ibn Abee Shaybah, 15/24]

‘Alee Ibn bee Taalib said:

“By Allaah I never forsook my property, my wealth, my family and my tribe except to seek the pleasure of Allaah (swt) and His Messenger (saw).” [As-Sunnan Al-Kubraa of Al-Bayhaqee, 6/301]

‘Alee Ibn bee Taalib said:

“By the One Who causes the seed to split and sprout and the One Who created the soul, no one loves them (Aboo Bakr and ‘Umar) but a pious believer, and no one hates them but an immoral evildoer.” [Sharh Usool I’tiqaad Ahl As-Sunnah, #4456]

‘Alee Ibn bee Taalib said:

“Carry out the obligatory duties for the sake of Allaah and Allaah will lead you to Paradise.” [Taareekh At-Tabaree, 5/458]

‘Alee Ibn bee Taalib said:

“He (Allaah) has made the sanctity of the Muslims more sacred than all other sacred limits, and He has brought the Muslims together on the basis of devotion and tawheed.” [Taareekh At-Tabaree, 5/458]

‘Alee Ibn bee Taalib said:

“Show little interest in this world, and you will join the righteous people, because what lies ahead of the people is their destination in the hereafter.” [Taareekh At-Tabaree, 5/458]

‘Alee Ibn bee Taalib said:

“Pay attention to the interests of the people… or the people are in front of you (meaning that you could do something for them), and the Hour is behind you and will catch up with you.” [Taareekh At-Tabaree, 5/458]

‘Alee Ibn bee Taalib said:

“If you see something good then go ahead and do it, (and) if you see something evil then leave it.” [Taareekh At-Tabaree, 5/458]

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The Proofs For Abstaining From Tahreef, Ta’teel, Tamtheel & Takyeef

Posted in 'Aqeedah, Books (pdf's, html's & doc's) with tags , , , , , , , on August 18, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

Proofs From The Qur’aan:

The first aayah:

And to Allaah belongs the Most Beautiful Names, so call on Him by them, and leave the company of those who ilhaad (belie or deny or deviate away from) His Names. They will be requited for what they used to do…..” [7:180]

The second aayah:

 “There is nothing like Him, and He is the All-Hearing, the All-Seeing.” [42:11]

The third aayah:

And don’t peruse (say) that of which you have no knowledge (about).” [17:36]

The first aayah proves the obligation of ithbaat (affirmation) without making tahreef (change) or ta’teel (denial) because both of these are a form of ilhaad (deviation).

The second aayah proves the obligation of negating any form of tamtheel (likening) (1).

The third aayah proves the negation of any form of takyeef (asking ‘how’), as well as withholding and remaining silent in regards to whatever neither ithbaat (affirmation) nor nafee (negation) has been reported.

[Taken from “Al-‘Aqeedah Al-Hamawiyyah” of Shaykh Al-Islaam, Ibn Taymiyyah]

The People Of Innovation Hating The People Of Hadeeth

Posted in Biddah / Innovation with tags , , , , , , on August 14, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

Ahmad Ibn Sinaan Al-Qattaan said:

“There is no innovator in this world except that he detests the Ahlul-Hadeeth (the people of hadeth). So when a man innovates (into the religion) the sweetness of the hadeeth is removed from his heart.” [Sharf Ashaabil Hadeeth, p.73]

Aboo Nasr Ibn Salaam Al-Faqeeh said:

“There is nothing more severe (burdensome) upon the Ahlul-Ilhaad (the people of deviation) and nothing is more detestable to them than listening to the hadeeth and its being mentioned with its chain of narration.” [Sharf Ashaabil Hadeeth, p.73]

Al-Haakim said:

“I heard Shaykh Aboo Bakr Ahmad Ibn Ishaaq Ibn Ayyoob Al-Faqeeh while he was arguing with a man. Shaykh Aboo Bakr said, ‘So and so narrated to us…’ and the man said to him, ‘Enough of the one who narrated to us! Up until when will he narrate to us?!

So the shaykh said to him, ‘Stand up (and leave), O Kaafir! And it is not permissible for you, after this, to enter my house ever again.’ Then he turned to us and said, ‘I have never said to anyone, ‘Do not enter my house’ except to this (man).‘ ” [At-Tabaqaat of As-Subkee, 3/10]

Aboo Haatim Ar-Raazee said:

“The sign of Ahlul Bid’ah (the people of innovation) is that they attack those who cling to the narrations.” [Usool Al-‘Itiqaad, 2/179]

What ‘Alee Said About Aboo Bakr And ‘Umar

Posted in Miscellaneous on August 10, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

‘Alee Ibn Abee Taalib said regarding Aboo Bakr:

“He was the best of those who remained; he was more merciful than anyone else, more kind, more pious and senior in terms of age and Islam. He led us as the Messenger of Allaah (saw) had led us until he died like that, then ‘Umar was appointed in charge after him…

He conducted affairs according to the way of the Prophet (saw) and his companion (Aboo Bakr), following in their footsteps as the camel calf follows its mother… Who do you know who is like them? May Allaah (swt) have mercy on them, and may Allaah (swt) help us to follow their path.

No one can attain what they attained except by following in their footsteps and loving them.

So whoever loves me, let him love them (Aboo Bakr and ‘Umar) Whoever does not love them hates me, and I have nothing to do with him.”

[Sharh I’tiqaad Ahl As-Sunnah Wal-Jamaa’ah, Al-Laalikaa’ee, p. 4456]

Quotes From The Salaf On Innovation And Its People

Posted in Biddah / Innovation with tags , , , , , on August 6, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

The Prophet (saw) said, “Whoever innovates or accommodates an innovator then upon him is the curse of Allaah, His Angels and the whole of mankind.” [Bukhaaree & Muslim]

Al-Fudayl Ibn ‘Iyyaad (d. 187H) said, “Do not sit with a person of innovation, for I fear that curses will descend upon you.” [Sharh Usool Al-‘Itiqaad, 262]

Ibn ‘Abbaas (d. 68H) said, “Indeed the most detestable of things to Allaah are the innovations.” [As-Sunan Al-Kubraa, 4/316]

Al-Hasan Al-Basree (d. 110H) said, “Do not sit with the people of innovation and desires, nor argue with them, nor listen to them.” [Sunan of Ad-Daarimee, 1/121]

Aboo Al-Jawzaa (d. 83H) said, “That apes and pigs live next to me is more loved by me than if one of them (i.e. people of desires) lives next to me.” [Sharh Usool Al-‘Itiqaad, 1/131]

Aboo Al-Jawzaa (d. 83H) also said, “That I should sit with pigs is more beloved to me than that I should sit with anyone from the innovated sects.” [Al-Hilyah, 3/78]

Qaadee Aboo Ya’laa (d. 333H) said, “There is consensus (Ijmaa’) among the sahaabha and the taabi’een as regards dissociating and cutting-off from the innovators.” [Hajar Al-Mubtadi’, p.32]

Ibn Qudaamah (d. 602H) said, “The salaf used to forbid sitting with the people of innovation, looking into their books and listening to their words.” [Al-Aadaab Ash-Sharee’ah, 1/263]

Al-Fudayl Ibn ‘Iyaad (d. 187H) said, “I met the best of people, all of them people of the sunnah and they used to forbid accompanying the people of innovation.” [Sharh Usool Al-‘Itiqaad, 267]

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Abandoning Sins, By Ibn Al-Jawzee

Posted in Miscellaneous with tags , , , , , on August 2, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

Ibn Al-Jawzee said:

“Abandoning sin when one is old and his hair is grey is not like the one who abandoned sins when he is young.”

He also said:

“The illumination of grey hair, which signals to the path of departure from this life, should be enough warning and alert for a mature man.”

[Awaking From The Sleep Of Heedlessness, by Ibn Al-Jawzee, pp. 31 & 33]