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The Importance of Foreplay, By Ibn Qudaamah

Posted in Marriage with tags , , , , , , , on November 27, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

Many husbands do not understand the importance of foreplay and tend to be intimate with their wives without fulfiling their wives’ desires to the full. This can cause much harm to the wife, and as a knock on effect, to the marriage as well.

Ibn Qudaamah said:

“It is recommended for the man to caress and fondle his wife prior to intercourse in order to arouse her so that she would get as much pleasure from intercourse as he does…

And if he climaxes before her, it would be disliked for him to pull out until she climaxes… because that would otherwise cause her harm and prevent her from fulfilling her desires.”

[Al-Mughnee, 8/136]

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Being Patient With The Little One Possesses

Posted in Miscellaneous with tags , , , , , on November 22, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

One of the Salaf used to say to himself:

“I posses nothing but this morsel (of bread) and this woman (his wife), so be patient or die.”

[Quoted in “Awaking From The Sleep Of Heedlessness”, by Ibn Al-Jawzee, p. 29]

People Are Of Three Types

Posted in Miscellaneous with tags , , , , , on November 16, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

‘UbaydAllaah Ibn Shaamit said:

My father used to say, ‘People are of three types:

(1) a man who started doing good deeds from a very young age and persisted on that until he left this life, this is a Muqarrab (one of those brought near to Allaah).

(2) And a man who started his life with sins and long heedlessness, but then he repented, then he is Saahib Al-Yameen (companions of the right hand).

(3) And finally a man who started doing evil deeds in a very early age and persisted  on them until he left this life and this is Saahib Ash-Shimaal (companions of the left hand).’

[Hilyaat Al-Awliyaa’, 3/131]

O Student Of Knowledge, Take Heed! By Bin Baaz

Posted in Knowledge with tags , , , , , , , , , , on November 12, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

“The student of knowledge should take great care about being lazy about what Allaah has made obligatory and from falling into that which He has forbidden – for others will follow him in it. Likewise, he should not be neglectful of the Sunnah and the makroohaat. If he becomes lazy, others will also become lazy.

It is important that he takes care in reviving the Sunnah even though a particular act may not be compulsory, in order to encourage the people to follow it, and to be an example for them. He (the student of knowledge) must keep away from the makroohaat and doubtful matters so that the people do not imitate him.”

[Al-‘Ilm Wa Akhlaaqu Ahlih [Knowledge And The Characteristic Of Its People], By Bin Baaz, pp. 20-21]

A Story & Lesson From The Life Of ‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab

Posted in Inspirational Stories with tags , , , , , , , , on November 8, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

Ash-Sha’bee related that one day Ka’ab Ibn Siwaar was sitting in the company of ‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab (ra) when a woman came and said: “O leader of the believers, I have never seen any man who is better than my husband. By Allaah, during the night he stands to pray, and during the day he fasts. Even on hot days he does not break his fast. (1)” ‘Umar then prayed for her forgiveness, and he praised her, saying: “It is only befitting that I should praise one such as you.” The woman then felt shy (3) and so she stood up to leave. (4)

Ka’ab said: “O leader of the believers, should you not have helped her resolve her problem with her husband?” ‘Umar said: “And what was her complaint?” Ka’ab said: “She is making a strong complaint against her husband.” ‘Umar said: “Is that really what she wanted to convey to me?” Ka’ab said: “Yes.”

So ‘Umar said: “Bring the woman back to me.” When she returned, ‘Umar said, “It is permitted for you to speak the truth. Verily this man claims that you are complaining about your husband, and that your complaint is that he stays away from your bed.”

She said: “Yes. Verily, I am a young woman and I desire what all women desire.”

‘Umar then sent for her husband, and when he came, ‘Umar said to Ka’ab, “Render a judgement in their case.”

Ka’ab said: “The leader of the believers has more of a right to render a judgement in their case.” (5)

‘Umar said: “I insist that you judge before them, for indeed, you have understood from their affair that which I was not able to understand.”

Ka’ab said: “Verily, suppose that she had three co-wives and that she was the fourth wife. In that case, she would have had the right to one out of every four nights. Therefore, my judgement is that he may dedicate himself to worship for three days and nights and that every fourth day she has a right over him both during the day and during the night.”

‘Umar said: “By Allaah, I am just as amazed by this judgement of yours as I was by your initial ability to detect a problem. Go, for you are now the Judge of Basrah.”

[Mawsoo’ah Fiqh ‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, p. 723]

Lessons learned:

1) ‘Umar was such that anyone could approach him and ask him a question or request a need of theirs. As busy as he was, he never neglected even the most “minor” of cases. Likewise he was easily accessible to the general population of Muslims, as anyone could easily approach him without having to get an appointment or go through many guards.

2) Women also have sexual desires as men do. It is not immoral of a woman if she has a strong urge for intimacy, as this is the way Allaah has created her. Even women form the Salaf had strong desires for intimacy. So it is not surprising, nor does it contradict piety or shyness if someone has a wife who has a very strong urge for intimacy.

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Was The Founder Of Bareilawi’ism A Shee’ah?

Posted in Various Other Misguided Sects/Groups Exposed with tags , , , , , , , , on November 4, 2013 by TheAuthenticBase

The founder of Bareilawi’ism was Ahmad Raza, born on 14 June 1865 and died in 1921. Some of his detractors alleged that he belonged to a Shee’ah family, performed taqiyyah (1) and hid his identity in order to live amongst Ahlus-Sunnah and propagate his Shee’ah beliefs.

He played a major role in propagating some of the beliefs taken from the Shee’ah (2). He even wrote some treatises that were apparently against the Shee’ah and in favour of Ahlus-Sunnah. Thus he fulfilled all of the requirements of taqiyyah.

Ahmad Raza (the founder of the Bareilawiy sect) used narrations in many of his words that were exclusive to the Shee’ah. These narrations were contrary to the beliefs of Ahlus-Sunnah.

For example:

‘Alee will distribute hell on the day of judgement. [Alaaman Wal ‘Alee, by Ahmad Raza Bareilawi, p. 53]

He also said about ‘Alee that “he is the distributer of Hell, meaning he will admit his friends to Paradise, and his opponents to Hell.” [Alaaman Wal ‘Alee, by Ahmad Raza Bareilawi, p. 56]

Faatimah was named as such because Allah protected her and her progeny from hellfire. [Khatam Nahuwat, by Ahmad raza Bareilawi, p. 97]

Sanctifying the Imaams of the Shee’ah. He stated that ‘Agwath (the ones who beseech for the creation) began with ‘Alee and continued till Hasan Askari. He reproduced the same chain as the Imaams of the Shee’ah. [Mulfuzat, p. 118]

Ahmad Raza declared ‘Alee as ‘mushkil kusha’ (one who removes difficulties) and said, “One who supplicates with the famous du’aa of Saifi (which reflects the beliefs of the Shee’ah), his difficulties are removed.” [Al-Aman Wal-Alaa, Pp. 12-13]

The du’aa of Saifi is: “Call ‘Alee who manifests wonders. You will find him as one who helps. O ‘Alee by the mediation of your walayah (canonisation) all worries are extinguished.” [Al-Aman Wal-Alaa, Pp. 12-13]

He made famous the usage of “panjtan paak” and promoted this couplet, which means, “There are five who’s barakah (blessings) remove all my afflictions: Muhammad, ‘Alee, Hasan, Husain and Faatimah.” [fataawa Razwiyah, 6/187]

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