A Quick Note To Sisters Commenting On My Blog

Assalaamu ‘alaykum,

I would just like to give a quick note to all sisters visiting this blog in shaa Allaah.

So I say; Muslimahs are distinguished from the non-Muslim women due to the fact that Muslimahs do not create any fitna. There is the hijaab of the clothing as well as the hijaab of the way a Muslimah conducts herself, how she speaks, how she behaves etc.

So it would be appreciated if sisters could follow the guidelines listed below when adding comments to this blog:

NOTE: Please do not feel offended by any of these points listed as they are only here to prevent fitna and keep this blog within the guidelines of Islamic teachings and morals. So please do not feel offended if your comments are edited or deleted, as I’m just doing what I feel necessary to avoid fitna.

1) No ‘lolz’ please.

2) No smiley faces.

3) Please don’t ask me how I am.

4) Please don’t praise me for this blog.

5) Please keep your comments to a minimum, in the sense that, do not comment as if you are speaking to me as if I am your mahram.

6) Please read this post on the issue of freemixing.

7) Please comment if it is only necessary to do so (i.e, if you wish elaboration on a certain issue, if you spot a mistake, etc. Knowledge related only.)

It would be highly appreciated if sisters could stay within these guidelines when commenting on my blog. I am only a brother like any other brother. Shaytaan comes to me as he does to anyone else. No man is free from the whisperings of Shaytaan.

No hard feelings in shaa Allaah…

JazaakAllaahu khaira…

ALSO: Please make clear when commenting whether u r a bro or a sis. JazaakAllaahu khaira…

52 Responses to “A Quick Note To Sisters Commenting On My Blog”

  1. Asalamualaikum,
    What do you mean by ‘knowledge related’?

    • Wa ‘alaykum assalaam,

      By “knowledge related” I mean comments like:

      – what does such and such mean
      – Isn’t that hadeeth unauthentic?
      – Why did the prophet (saw) say that?
      – What is the ruling behind such and such
      – Can u plz elaborate on such and such
      – I don’t understand what u mean by…
      – There is a typo on line …
      – Wasn’t Ibn Uthaymeen for the other opinion
      – Does shaykh so-and-so also hold this opinion
      – etc…

  2. assalamu alaykum brother. you have a good point. but i disagree on the “lolz” and “smiley faces”. let our sisters speak in whatever way they want – as long as its within the limits of not creatting fitna. dont be too harsh on them. be lenient brother.

    but i surely love point no. 4.

    may Allah show you and me mercy, and forgive us of our sins.

    your brother in islam,


  3. zahrabatul Says:

    all the points are corrrect.from 1to 7

    linus your sentence

    “but i disagree on the “lolz” and “smiley faces”. let our sisters speak in whatever way they want”

    is jahil

  4. Ruqaiyyah Says:

    Salam Alaykum sis, I agree with all the guidelines set, It is not sunnah to lol, The prophet does not laugh out loud, So, If you were outside on the street and a brother said something funny, would you laugh out loud? Or If a brother said something, would you smile at him? What happened to lowering the gaze, what happened to “do not come NEAR to ziina? So sisters pls just because you are typing does not mean free mixing is allowed, typing or not typing, it is still a form of communication. Love you ukthi for Allah sake. No harm or rudeness intended. Allahu Allam.

    • abdurahman Says:

      Did the prophet (saw) ever used computer ? Why u have to say lol is not sunnah ? Bro don,t mislead others?

      • Lol means laughing out loudly. Dat is not sunnah.loudly speaking or laughing is not at all permissible.dat the point.
        Not dat is the point dat if Rasul sm used comptr or not..

      • Brother,

        With all due respect to you, please learn the deen thoroughly before giving comments like “don’t mislead others”.

        Unfortunately many muslims today have fallen into the trap of shaytaan with their ignorant response. You ask the question, “Did the prophet (saw) ever used computer?”. That sounded like one of those questions people who say “The Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wasallam never drove a car so ride a camel or he never used a computer so use falcons and pigeons to communicate” would ask.

        First of all, you should study what Bid’aah (Innovation) means.

        Here are the basics you should know about Bid’ah:

        “He who innovates something in this matter of ours [i.e. Islam – matters concerning worship] that is not of it will have it rejected [by Allah]. (Imam Nawawi’s famous 40; Bukhari and Muslim)

        Based on this hadith you should understand two things:

        1. Any religious action (‘Ibadah which means ritual acts of worship i.e Hajj, Sawm, Salat, zakah) is haram until proven halal through authentic sources (Quran and/or Sunnah)

        2. And any non-religious action (muamalat – eating, sleeping, blinking, purifying oneself, driving a car to work, using the computer etc. etc.) is halal until proven haram.

        Here is a book you can download for free online to learn more about Bid’ah – http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/Bidah.pdf

        May Allah increase us all in beneficial ‘ilm.

        Wa salaamu ‘alaykom

        • Salam to All (both Mulins &knob Muslin),

          Regarding innovation I have a question. As a person of very limited knowledge would like to ask this forum (anybody can answer) : “Muslims use Electricity everyday in mosque and other places, but the person who created it was a non Muslim. Now will he be rewarded as Muskim communities are enjoying the benefit of this invention?”

          • wa alaykum assalaam akhi,

            No they would not get the reward as they did not intend good and furthermore Allaah only rewards the Kuffaar in this life not the next.
            The concept of sadaqah Jariyah only applies to Muslims, not Kuffaar.

            I hope this answered ur question.

  5. I think the guidelines are very reasonable and should be followed by sisters insha’llah.

  6. Salamu alaikum.pls d point of lol nd smiling face,does it really feel it can cause fitna?u dnt even kw d person,u’v nt seen her face nor heard her voice.so i dnt understand hw this wil cause fitna.

    • FatimaAbdulKader Says:

      Brother, people have intercourse on chat lines. Communicating is not about seeing.
      The Straight Path is one.There are no shades of grey in Islam.

      • Allahu Akbar

        For a sister to reply with such illicitness it really begs the question on how far from the real hijaab they are. Egos be controlled and the method in correcting of Allah’s Rasool be applied. Not lady like to say the least. When was jumping down the throat a prophetic method and if we inculcate basic modesty then your comment falls even further into the abyss of jahiliyah. It’s the brothers blog and Allah gave him taufique to benefit is may Allah be glorified and he feel that he wishes to work within certain parameters walahi we respect that and we commend. Sadly we live in a time that we must remind people of basic islamic etiquette but at same time such harsh replies are invalidated on the outset.
        A it’s not befitting for any sisters to speak of such agencies or promiscious innovations by kufar. Sisters and mothers of the ummah now have only virtual Zina to do commentary on.
        Allah must’aan

  7. Agree, the rules are quite reasonable and must be followed by not just Sisters in Islam but also by Brothers in Islam when typing/writing to female or mixed audience. Shouldn’t be?!

    New to this blog, have to take a tour, Jazak Allah…

  8. Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

    SubhanAllah, I am so ashamed to read the comments some of my brothers and sisters have written in regards to the rules the brother has specified on his blog, we should respect this site as if it was the brother’s home, everyone has certain rules in their homes and whomsoever visits should accept and respect fisabilillah, we should focus on what the brother is doing which benefit us all and he has certain rules to protect himself from any fitnah Alhamdulillah, and there is nothjing wrong with it…we should make it easy for each other as Allah says in the Qur’an the believers are protectors and supporters to one another…. may Allah reward him and may Allah forgive us all our shortcomings.. Ameen.

    • zohraalfransiya Says:

      Asalamou aleikoum
      I was indeed thinking of the same thing ya oukhty…sad indeed…
      Ameen to your du’a!
      May guides us all…

  9. Abu'abdiLLAH Says:

    please update your blog more regular heheeheh lolz…. by the way im a muslim man

  10. Muslim sis Says:

    I was wondering what I should to do get into Al-Fajr Institute, because I want to go to Al-Azhar University and I dont speak Arabic and I really liked to learn!
    What’s requred required of me to do to get their is my question.
    May Allah bless you if you answer.

    • Dear Muslim sis,

      Al Azhar has some serious aqeeda issues. And I would never ever recommend anyone to study in the deen from there. I personally would recommend Umm al Qura University – https://uqu.edu.sa/english and in while waiting till you get accepted, you can study the deen online on Islami Online University – http://www.islamiconlineuniversity.com/

      May Allah ease your affairs.

      • abooghurabaaa Says:

        Please dont say things that you dont know or experience it for yourself. Fear Allah for spreading falsehood about even the uni.

        • What she said is well known, it is no secret, most of them are asharis and they openly speak about their aqeedah. If a person is strong in his aqeeda and has a strong enough foundation of the knowledge of his deen then studying at Al-Azhar will not harm him with the permission of Allah. So to conclude she is not spreading falsehood about the Uni, just warning people and giving them suggestions to that which is better.

  11. Muslimah Says:

    Brother when u tell something plzz dont be so harsh.. people focuz less on what u say and more on how.
    Dont get offended, I just felt bad for the other person you where ” being thought on ”
    I hope Allah bless us and lead us all to jannah :)

    • Wa ‘alaykum as-salaam,
      I’m not offended, as ‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab said, “May Allaah have mercy on the on who, when he sees my mistakes, tells me.” Though may I ask what you are referring to? (So as to get you naseehah fully across to me). Jzk

      • Asc
        I was referring to you respons to brother abdurahmans comment 16.november
        It could be me misunderstanding your way of speakinh so I ask forgivness if Ive misunderstood, if not its not the end of the world if u spoke harsh. Its a reason we live, and a pary of it is to become better muslims. Take care! Jzk

      • Muslimah Says:

        haha brother after reading through i’ve seen that it wasent you who posted it!!
        it was another one called um osama.
        Sorry i thought u were working on this page together.
        Im really sorry brother
        May you ignore my fault and be blessed for taking it positive

        • Salaam alaykom wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

          Ameen and barakaIlahu feek for the naseeha. I apologize if I left an impression that I was apart of this blog, I am not. I am a muslima annoyed and offended by Abdul Rahman’s reply. It was pure ignorance with a touch of arrogance. And those two never look good together.

          The owner of this blog was asking for nothing outside of the fold of the shariaa. He was not ‘misleading’ anyone. ‘Misleading’ is a big word. Even if anyone feels that the guidelines he has set has ‘nothing to do with Islam’, they should still respect it as long as it is reasonable and not kufr. Like the sister above had mentioned, it is his site, he sets whatever guidelines he wishes. If someone owns a villa, they can set rules for guests to remove their shoes before entering – even if it is not from Islam.

          It’s strange that someone would take what I say as offensive. As muslims we should be able to take much more than that and should set our thresholds higher. We live in a time where we need to be strong physically, mentally and spritually not just one or the other. And it is true that people focus less on what we say and more on how we say it, but that is not the right attitude. People who limit themselves to that can never discover and attain their potential to it’s fullest – a wise person once said, “The capacity to learn is a gift, the ability to learn is a skill, the willingness to learn is a choice”. Allah has blessed us with Islam and gave us the best so why don’t we choose to develop ourselves with the advice that is given rather than focusing on how it was said and thrashing it’s benefit – even it is little.

          Don’t take offense in what I say. And wallahi, I am not directing this to you, this is a general advice and I hope that people will take this in the best light.

          P.s Apologies to TheAuthenticBase if I left a bad impression on the site.

          Wasallam ‘alaykom wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

          • Assalaamu ‘alaykum,

            @ Umm Osama:

            Sorry or the late reply. Just wish to say jazaakAllaahu khairan for your words. May Allaah reward u. No need to apologise for anything, and feel free to comment on this blog where you see necessary as I’m not always focused on the comments that much. JazaakAllaahu khairan once again.

            @ Muslimah:

            No need to apologise. I was trying to find which comment you was referring to of mine but didn’t quite know how to point out they were not my words without offending you. Either way, alhumdulillaah. Advice should be taken even if one was not in the blame, as only a munaafiq rejects advice. From the characteristics of those who fear Allaah as He should be feared (not boasting just saying) is that they take advice even if they were not in error, as advice is a golden gift which only an ignoramus rejects.

            @ both: Feel free to comment and correct me where you see necessary, as ‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab said, “There is no goodness in people who don’t give advice, and there is no goodness in people who don’t like to be advised.” [Risaalat Al-Mustarshideen, 71]

            Wassalaamu ‘alaykum.


  12. You would be helping everyone if you could change your theme.
    Dark theme strain your eyes and you never read things with interest!

  13. Vassalamu Alaikum.

  14. Your are so funny. Thats good MashaAllah

  15. ahmad poswal Says:

    i want to admission in engenring fild. U have which catagaries about engeenring?

  16. Assalamu alaykum

    I think the brother has the right to say what he feels. He clearly stated that the points are only there to prevent fitna. I personally respect him because he is doing this with a pure intension so don’t ruin it for him. Its right.. “No man if free from the whisperings of Shaytaan” therefore try understand why he wrote the points he made. Inshallah khair


  17. Umm Abdur-Rahman Al Qarni Says:

    As Salaamu Alaykum brother
    I pray you’re in the best of Eemaan and Health
    Brother I wanted to give you Nasee7a Inshaa Allah and Inshaa Allaah you will contemplate.

    Brother my advice to you is when you post about sisters, please Inshaa Allah try to be thoughtful as
    sisters are very sensitive due to some things and that is a FACT, remember the Hadeeth to give good treatment to women.
    Women came from the rib etc
    Please Inshaa Allaah be sensitive, and remember the Deen of Allaah is for the Muslimah as well, as some
    speak about the Deen as though it is only for brothers. Inshaa Allaah, the reason why I say this is because some sisters
    Eeman have decreased due to how Brothers speak with Pride or belittle the Muslimah by comparing her to the Hoorul ‘Ayn, Allaahu Akbar. If you knew the status of the Muslim women compared to the Hur you would be surprised.
    So please speak knowledge based and be kind to your fellow sisters, remember your sisters are your SISTERS, your mothers, your aunties, grandmothers. We will all be held accountable and the best thing would be that you help sisters also increase their Eeman and not make them feel bad about themselves Na3udhu billaah. Alhamdulillaah for Islaam honouring the Muslimah Woman.
    Baarak Allaahu 3alaykoum.

    Your sister in Islaam

  18. Umm Abdur-Rahman Al Qarni Says:

    I am sorry if I have offended anyone, may Allaah forgive me.

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  21. Aki what you have said is correct and you are firm ,may Allah reward you.

  22. Ps al ibaanah is better then al fajer.

  23. As’salaamu 3lyk , Akh , Can i set these guidelines on my blog as well inn sha Allaah ? if there is no copyright

  24. Rifqah Auliya Says:

    Salaamullaahi ‘alaykum warahmatuhu wa barakatuhu.
    I am From Indonesia, I would like to apply in Princess Nora bint Abdl Rahman University, and I have mahram. But the main problem I have is about Financial. Is there any Makhraj?? Jazakallah

  25. Honestly the way you speak to females as though they are so below you. You should be ashamed of yourself. All your hatred towards women and other idiot men like you only does ONE thing it causes women to stay far far far away from islam. Because pigs like you are the last people any women would want to listen to let alone obey. You will have more luck being gay. Good luck

    • I am a woman and I have nothing wrong with what he said. This is his blog and he sets the rules around here. I promise you one day when you have more ‘ilm, you will regret what you said.

      May Allah guide us all to that which is pleasing to Him and remove from our hearts love for the ways of the unbelievers.

    • SubhanAlllaah sis . Pls dont get angry sis but i I think u should ask forgiveness on what u just said. Islam tells us not to free mix and the brother may Allah reward him is just setting guidlines so we can all be save from fitna. And this is the correct way of doing it. May Allaah save us all .may Allaah forgive us all to and may Allaah help us to do that which please Him. With Allaah lies all success

  26. plz help me…!!
    I am noman frm al jamia al islamia darululoom in india, and this is my final year here i want to join any university in arab for 2-3 years study how can i do this.

  27. Muslimah Says:

    Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu? In case I got 60% and I want to study islamic studies and shariya. .. will I be accepted in this university. ..

    • Salam u alaikum, I am interested in Islamic studies. I do hifz the Quran. But my parents not listening . Three years ago I am waiting . My father is not interested to am going Madrise . my father not help me. I have to do hifz the Quran. My brother is also hifz the Quran in madrisa of Riyadh. Give me any advise what can I do. Am Pakistani any madrisa in Riyadh for girls please help me

  28. Brother ,
    I have a question for you . Hope you will answer

    Is laughing out loud (LOL) not allowed for girls only .Boys are also included. Why are you specifically pointing girls and why not boys if law is for both.

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