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O Sisters, Your Brother-In-Law Is Nothing But Death!

Posted in Adab (Manners), General Family Issues, Killing The Fitna, Marriage, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , on November 20, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

The Hadeeth:

A wife should not go out in front of the brother-in-law or be alone with him in the house, because the Prophet (saw) said:

Beware of entering upon women.

One of the Sahaabah said to him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what about the brother-in-law?

He said: “The brother-in-law is death!

[Bukhaaree, Fath al-Baari, 9/330]

Commentry By An-Nawawee:

An-Nawawee, may Allaah have mercy on him, said:

This hadeeth refers to all the relatives of the husband apart from his father and sons, who are mahrams for the wife and she is allowed to be alone with them; they are not described as “death.” It refers to the brother, nephew, uncle, cousin and other relatives of the husband whom she would be permitted to marry if she were not already married.

Because people customarily treat this matter so lightly, and a man may sit alone with his brother’s wife, the brother-in-law is likened to death, and he is the foremost among non-mahram men who should be prevented from doing so.

The expression “the brother-in-law is death” may have a number of meanings, such as the following:

– That being alone with a brother-in-law may lead to religious doom if it results in sin.

– That it may lead to actual death if an immoral deed is committed that dictates the punishment of stoning.

– That it may spell disaster for the woman if her husband’s jealousy leads to divorce.

– That you should fear being alone with a non-mahram woman as much as you fear death.

– That being alone with a non-mahram woman is as terrible as death.

Excuses, excuses:

To those who take the idea of trustworthiness as an excuse, and say things like, “I trust my wife and I trust my brother or my cousin,” we say, “Do not trust too much and do not doubt too much, but know that the hadeeth “No man sits alone with a (non-mahram) woman, but the Shaytaan is the third among them” (Tirmidhee 1171) includes both the most righteous of people as well as the most immoral of people, and that Islam makes no exceptions whatsoever in such reports.

A Final Note:

Likewise the Prophet (saw) mentioned: “…no man should enter upon a woman unless she has a mahram with her.

[Bukhaaree 1729]

O sisters, know who your mahram is, and avoid contact from all non-mahrams.

Your brother-in-law, whether he be smaller than you in age, bigger than you in age, pious, or unpious, whatever praiseworthy or blameworthy characteristics he may posses, is nothing but death!

Fear Allaah and avoid free-mixing.

Why Is It People Judge Muslim Women Differently – MUST READ!!!

Posted in General Family Issues, Miscellaneous, Sisters Base, Words Of Wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on September 20, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Just a few things to think about:

Why is it when a woman serves her boss at work she is honored, but when she serves her husband (her closest companion in life) it is considered slavery?

Why is it when a woman teaches other kids at school, she is great and is needed to produce an educated society, but when she stays at home to teach her kids and raises them, she is not so great, and should do something more productive in life than just lay eggs and raise kids?!!!

Why is it when a woman works as a chef and serves food for other people, she is praised, or is not looked down upon, but when she stays at home and cooks for her family, she is oppressed or backwards?

Why is it when a woman works at a dry cleaner, cleaning other peoples clothes, she is doing fine, she is working to earn money, nothing wrong with that, but when she washes her husband’s and childrens clothes, she is suffering and needs to be saved?!

Why is it when a woman works in an office outside of her home, she is a great woman, but if she works in an office inside of her home, she is not so great, and the only difference is that the second is at home ?

Why is it when a woman stays at home to serve her family she is a slave that needs to be freed from her prison, is oppressed, unproductive, backwards, and needs to get a life, while the woman who serves other people outside of her home, is a great and magnificent woman, she is a free woman, an equal to man, and has a bright future.


The Unknown Deceased’s Prayer

Posted in Dunya | Aakhirah, General Family Issues, Inspirational Stories, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on May 5, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

The Unknown Deceased’s Prayer

One day, Ibbaan Ibn Saaleh left the company of Anas Ibn Maalik (ra) and began to walk in th emarketplace, when suddenly, four men carrying a bier with a corpse on it passed by.

Ibbaan then exclaimed, “Strange indeed! The marketplaces of Basrah are filled with people, yet only four people are following this funeral procession; verily I wioll make it five.

Before they reached the graveyard, and when it was time to pray over the deceased, Ibbaan asked the others, “Who among you is the gardian (or relative) of the deceased, so that he can led the funeral prayer?

The others answered in unison, “In terms of closeness to the deceased, we are all equal. So you (i.e., Ibbaan) lead the prayer.

They prayed over the deceased, finished their march to the graveyard, and buried the corpse. When all was said and done, Ibbaan asked, “I ask you by Allaah, tell me the truth about this dead person (we just buried).

They said, “None of us knows the story of this dead person; we are simply workers; a woman paid us to carry the corpse (and to bury it).

Ibbaan turned around and saw a woman approaching the grave they had just dug; she sat over the grave for a while and then stood up, laughing. After going up to her, Ibbaan said, “By Allaah, this is strange indeed! A woman laughing over the grave of her deceased (relative or friend).

Why are you praying into that which does not concern you?” the woman said.

Inform me (about what just happened),” insisted Ibbaan. “Indeed I am Ibbaan, servant of Anas Bin Maalik (ra), who was the servant of the Messenger of Allaah.

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A Mother – A Childs First Love

Posted in General Family Issues, Killing The Fitna, Parenting, Sisters Base, Words Of Wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 12, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

A Mother – A Childs First Love

A mother asked her family doctor; “Why don’t women of this generation find enough milk to breast-feed their children?

The doctor remained silent for  moment, and then said; “Imagine cows that are in the field that are constantly driven at high speeds. Each night, when they return to the barnyard, they will not be able to give forth milk. Madame, such is the state of mothers today!

Moral Of The Story:

yes, such is the state of mothers today. A mother in these times leaves home in the morning just as men do, striving with all their strength, preserving through the heat of the sun or through the cold of the winter, toiling – either of her own accord or under coercion, because at the end of the day (or month) she needs her paycheck.

How will the woman just described be able to find milk in her breasts in order to suckle her babies? Furthermore, how can she find time to look after her children? To bestow upon them her love? To give them her full attention?

And how are children expected to be trained when their mothers are far away from them? Or to feel satisfied in that they are receiving compassion and love? Especially when we consider that the only one to look after them is a nanny or a babysitter.

Therefore we should not be surprised when we find that mothers of today are not giving birth, or are not raising true men, men who aspire after the greater aims of life, men who contribute greatly to the Muslim nation.

Today we can only read about such women in books of history!

Women Are ‘Awrah – Explained

Posted in Brothers Base, General Family Issues, Killing The Fitna, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 8, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Women Are ‘Awrah – Explained

‘Abdullâh b. Mas’ûd – Allâh be pleased with him – said:

Women are but an ‘awrah (something private to be covered). A woman might leave her house without there being any problem with her, but the Shaytân seeks her out and says [to her], “You will not pass by anyone except that you will impress/please him.” A woman puts on her clothes and is asked where she is going, to which she replies, “To visit a sick person,” or “to attend a funeral”, or “to pray in the masjid”; but a woman never worships Allâh in the way she does when she worships Him in her house.

[Al-Tabarânî. Graded sahîh by Shaykh Al-Albânî in Sahîh Al-Targhîbi wa Al-Tarhîb Vol. 1 p84]


Girl Sells Sister, 7, For Sex (America)

Posted in Brothers Base, General Family Issues, Inspirational Stories, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 7, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Girl Sells Sister, 7, For Sex (America)

A 15-year-old sold her seven-year-old sister for sex with up to seven men at a party near their home in New Jersey.

Police said the child later got dressed and two strangers walked her home. She was treated at a hospital.

The teenager, who stayed behind, also took money to have sex with others at the party in an apartment on Sunday.

She has been charged with aggravated sexual assault, promoting prostitution and other crimes. Her name was not released because of her age.

Police are trying to track down those who attended the party.

The girls’ parents reported them missing on Sunday afternoon and police were at the home when the seven-year-old returned.


Benefitting The Dead, Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips

Posted in General Family Issues, Methodology Of The Salaf, Miscellaneous with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 23, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Benefitting The Dead
Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips

Chapter 6 from “Funeral Rites in Islaam”
by Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips
© Copyright 1996 Dar Al-Fatah

The Qur’aan established two general principles concerning the reward and punishment for deeds:

1) Each human will fundamentally only be benefited or harmed by the deeds which he or she actually did.

…that humans will only have the result of their actions.” [Soorah an-Najm (53):39]

2) No human can carry the sin of another.

…that no one bearing sins can carry the sins of others.” [Soorah an-Najm (53):38]

Consequently, when a person dies, the opportunity for that person to do good ends with the person’s death. However, the chance to harvest good from deeds which were done prior to death remains.


The prayers of other Muslims on behalf of the dead will benefit the dead, by the permission of God. Had they done no good, no one would consider praying for them. If they were evil, the prayers of others will not benefit them. In Chapter al-Hashr (59):10, Allaah praises the believers who pray for those who have passed away before their time.

And those who came after them say: Our Lord, forgive us and our brothers who preceded us in faith, and do not put in our hearts any hatred against the believers. Our Lord, You are indeed full of kindness, Most Merciful.

Furthermore, the funeral prayer itself consists mostly of prayers for the dead.

Safwaan [the narrator mentioned that Safwaan ibn `Abdillaah ibn Safwaan was married to ad-Dardaa] said, “I visited Abud-Dardaa’s home in Syria, but did not find him there. Ummud-Dardaa asked [me], ‘Are you going to make Hajj this year?‘ I said: ‘Yes.’ She said, ‘Pray to Allaah for good for us, for the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) said, “The prayer of Muslim for his Muslim brother in his absence will be answered. As long as he prays for the good of his brother, there is an angel assigned near his head who says: Amen, and may the same be for you.’ I left and went to the marketplace where I met Abud-Dardaa and he related from the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) the same as that.” [Sahih Muslim, vol.4, p.1429, no.6590.]


Fasts missed by dead persons may be done on their behalf by their close relatives. The fasts may be from Ramalaan or from oaths (nathar).

`Aa’ishah quoted Allaah’s Messenger (sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) as saying, “Whoever died owing fasts, his guardian should fast on his behalf” [Sahih Al-Bukhari, vol. 3, p.99, no.173, and Sahih Muslim, vol. 2, p.556, no. 2553.]

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