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O Sisters, Your Brother-In-Law Is Nothing But Death!

Posted in Adab (Manners), General Family Issues, Killing The Fitna, Marriage, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , on November 20, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

The Hadeeth:

A wife should not go out in front of the brother-in-law or be alone with him in the house, because the Prophet (saw) said:

Beware of entering upon women.

One of the Sahaabah said to him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what about the brother-in-law?

He said: “The brother-in-law is death!

[Bukhaaree, Fath al-Baari, 9/330]

Commentry By An-Nawawee:

An-Nawawee, may Allaah have mercy on him, said:

This hadeeth refers to all the relatives of the husband apart from his father and sons, who are mahrams for the wife and she is allowed to be alone with them; they are not described as “death.” It refers to the brother, nephew, uncle, cousin and other relatives of the husband whom she would be permitted to marry if she were not already married.

Because people customarily treat this matter so lightly, and a man may sit alone with his brother’s wife, the brother-in-law is likened to death, and he is the foremost among non-mahram men who should be prevented from doing so.

The expression “the brother-in-law is death” may have a number of meanings, such as the following:

– That being alone with a brother-in-law may lead to religious doom if it results in sin.

– That it may lead to actual death if an immoral deed is committed that dictates the punishment of stoning.

– That it may spell disaster for the woman if her husband’s jealousy leads to divorce.

– That you should fear being alone with a non-mahram woman as much as you fear death.

– That being alone with a non-mahram woman is as terrible as death.

Excuses, excuses:

To those who take the idea of trustworthiness as an excuse, and say things like, “I trust my wife and I trust my brother or my cousin,” we say, “Do not trust too much and do not doubt too much, but know that the hadeeth “No man sits alone with a (non-mahram) woman, but the Shaytaan is the third among them” (Tirmidhee 1171) includes both the most righteous of people as well as the most immoral of people, and that Islam makes no exceptions whatsoever in such reports.

A Final Note:

Likewise the Prophet (saw) mentioned: “…no man should enter upon a woman unless she has a mahram with her.

[Bukhaaree 1729]

O sisters, know who your mahram is, and avoid contact from all non-mahrams.

Your brother-in-law, whether he be smaller than you in age, bigger than you in age, pious, or unpious, whatever praiseworthy or blameworthy characteristics he may posses, is nothing but death!

Fear Allaah and avoid free-mixing.

Why Is It People Judge Muslim Women Differently – MUST READ!!!

Posted in General Family Issues, Miscellaneous, Sisters Base, Words Of Wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on September 20, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Just a few things to think about:

Why is it when a woman serves her boss at work she is honored, but when she serves her husband (her closest companion in life) it is considered slavery?

Why is it when a woman teaches other kids at school, she is great and is needed to produce an educated society, but when she stays at home to teach her kids and raises them, she is not so great, and should do something more productive in life than just lay eggs and raise kids?!!!

Why is it when a woman works as a chef and serves food for other people, she is praised, or is not looked down upon, but when she stays at home and cooks for her family, she is oppressed or backwards?

Why is it when a woman works at a dry cleaner, cleaning other peoples clothes, she is doing fine, she is working to earn money, nothing wrong with that, but when she washes her husband’s and childrens clothes, she is suffering and needs to be saved?!

Why is it when a woman works in an office outside of her home, she is a great woman, but if she works in an office inside of her home, she is not so great, and the only difference is that the second is at home ?

Why is it when a woman stays at home to serve her family she is a slave that needs to be freed from her prison, is oppressed, unproductive, backwards, and needs to get a life, while the woman who serves other people outside of her home, is a great and magnificent woman, she is a free woman, an equal to man, and has a bright future.

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The Unknown Deceased’s Prayer

Posted in Dunya | Aakhirah, General Family Issues, Inspirational Stories, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on May 5, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

The Unknown Deceased’s Prayer

One day, Ibbaan Ibn Saaleh left the company of Anas Ibn Maalik (ra) and began to walk in th emarketplace, when suddenly, four men carrying a bier with a corpse on it passed by.

Ibbaan then exclaimed, “Strange indeed! The marketplaces of Basrah are filled with people, yet only four people are following this funeral procession; verily I wioll make it five.

Before they reached the graveyard, and when it was time to pray over the deceased, Ibbaan asked the others, “Who among you is the gardian (or relative) of the deceased, so that he can led the funeral prayer?

The others answered in unison, “In terms of closeness to the deceased, we are all equal. So you (i.e., Ibbaan) lead the prayer.

They prayed over the deceased, finished their march to the graveyard, and buried the corpse. When all was said and done, Ibbaan asked, “I ask you by Allaah, tell me the truth about this dead person (we just buried).

They said, “None of us knows the story of this dead person; we are simply workers; a woman paid us to carry the corpse (and to bury it).

Ibbaan turned around and saw a woman approaching the grave they had just dug; she sat over the grave for a while and then stood up, laughing. After going up to her, Ibbaan said, “By Allaah, this is strange indeed! A woman laughing over the grave of her deceased (relative or friend).

Why are you praying into that which does not concern you?” the woman said.

Inform me (about what just happened),” insisted Ibbaan. “Indeed I am Ibbaan, servant of Anas Bin Maalik (ra), who was the servant of the Messenger of Allaah.

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A Mother – A Childs First Love

Posted in General Family Issues, Killing The Fitna, Parenting, Sisters Base, Words Of Wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 12, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

A Mother – A Childs First Love

A mother asked her family doctor; “Why don’t women of this generation find enough milk to breast-feed their children?

The doctor remained silent for  moment, and then said; “Imagine cows that are in the field that are constantly driven at high speeds. Each night, when they return to the barnyard, they will not be able to give forth milk. Madame, such is the state of mothers today!

Moral Of The Story:

yes, such is the state of mothers today. A mother in these times leaves home in the morning just as men do, striving with all their strength, preserving through the heat of the sun or through the cold of the winter, toiling – either of her own accord or under coercion, because at the end of the day (or month) she needs her paycheck.

How will the woman just described be able to find milk in her breasts in order to suckle her babies? Furthermore, how can she find time to look after her children? To bestow upon them her love? To give them her full attention?

And how are children expected to be trained when their mothers are far away from them? Or to feel satisfied in that they are receiving compassion and love? Especially when we consider that the only one to look after them is a nanny or a babysitter.

Therefore we should not be surprised when we find that mothers of today are not giving birth, or are not raising true men, men who aspire after the greater aims of life, men who contribute greatly to the Muslim nation.

Today we can only read about such women in books of history!

Women Are ‘Awrah – Explained

Posted in Brothers Base, General Family Issues, Killing The Fitna, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 8, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Women Are ‘Awrah – Explained

‘Abdullâh b. Mas’ûd – Allâh be pleased with him – said:

Women are but an ‘awrah (something private to be covered). A woman might leave her house without there being any problem with her, but the Shaytân seeks her out and says [to her], “You will not pass by anyone except that you will impress/please him.” A woman puts on her clothes and is asked where she is going, to which she replies, “To visit a sick person,” or “to attend a funeral”, or “to pray in the masjid”; but a woman never worships Allâh in the way she does when she worships Him in her house.

[Al-Tabarânî. Graded sahîh by Shaykh Al-Albânî in Sahîh Al-Targhîbi wa Al-Tarhîb Vol. 1 p84]

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Girl Sells Sister, 7, For Sex (America)

Posted in Brothers Base, General Family Issues, Inspirational Stories, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 7, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Girl Sells Sister, 7, For Sex (America)

A 15-year-old sold her seven-year-old sister for sex with up to seven men at a party near their home in New Jersey.

Police said the child later got dressed and two strangers walked her home. She was treated at a hospital.

The teenager, who stayed behind, also took money to have sex with others at the party in an apartment on Sunday.

She has been charged with aggravated sexual assault, promoting prostitution and other crimes. Her name was not released because of her age.

Police are trying to track down those who attended the party.

The girls’ parents reported them missing on Sunday afternoon and police were at the home when the seven-year-old returned.

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Benefitting The Dead, Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips

Posted in General Family Issues, Methodology Of The Salaf, Miscellaneous with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 23, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Benefitting The Dead
Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips

Chapter 6 from “Funeral Rites in Islaam”
by Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips
© Copyright 1996 Dar Al-Fatah

The Qur’aan established two general principles concerning the reward and punishment for deeds:

1) Each human will fundamentally only be benefited or harmed by the deeds which he or she actually did.

…that humans will only have the result of their actions.” [Soorah an-Najm (53):39]

2) No human can carry the sin of another.

…that no one bearing sins can carry the sins of others.” [Soorah an-Najm (53):38]

Consequently, when a person dies, the opportunity for that person to do good ends with the person’s death. However, the chance to harvest good from deeds which were done prior to death remains.

Du’aa

The prayers of other Muslims on behalf of the dead will benefit the dead, by the permission of God. Had they done no good, no one would consider praying for them. If they were evil, the prayers of others will not benefit them. In Chapter al-Hashr (59):10, Allaah praises the believers who pray for those who have passed away before their time.

And those who came after them say: Our Lord, forgive us and our brothers who preceded us in faith, and do not put in our hearts any hatred against the believers. Our Lord, You are indeed full of kindness, Most Merciful.

Furthermore, the funeral prayer itself consists mostly of prayers for the dead.

Safwaan [the narrator mentioned that Safwaan ibn `Abdillaah ibn Safwaan was married to ad-Dardaa] said, “I visited Abud-Dardaa’s home in Syria, but did not find him there. Ummud-Dardaa asked [me], ‘Are you going to make Hajj this year?‘ I said: ‘Yes.’ She said, ‘Pray to Allaah for good for us, for the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) said, “The prayer of Muslim for his Muslim brother in his absence will be answered. As long as he prays for the good of his brother, there is an angel assigned near his head who says: Amen, and may the same be for you.’ I left and went to the marketplace where I met Abud-Dardaa and he related from the Prophet (sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) the same as that.” [Sahih Muslim, vol.4, p.1429, no.6590.]

Fasting

Fasts missed by dead persons may be done on their behalf by their close relatives. The fasts may be from Ramalaan or from oaths (nathar).

`Aa’ishah quoted Allaah’s Messenger (sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam) as saying, “Whoever died owing fasts, his guardian should fast on his behalf” [Sahih Al-Bukhari, vol. 3, p.99, no.173, and Sahih Muslim, vol. 2, p.556, no. 2553.]

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To The Wives Of Muslim Scholars/Students Of Knowledge

Posted in General Family Issues, Knowledge, Sisters Base, Words Of Wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 26, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

To The Wives Of Muslim Scholars/Students Of Knowledge

Suplied by a sister Sanaa

Oh wives of the Daa’ies (those who work day and night calling to Islaam) and Mujaahideen, fear Allaah and be firm and patient. Verily you are the cause of the success of your husband’s struggle and the cause of its decline.

There is a saying that behind every great man is a great woman. Many people differ about this parable, between those in support of it and those who appose it. We all must agree about the importance of the wife in the life of her husband and the fact she has a role that if fulfilled, the boat of da’wah will sail peacefully and successfully. For this reason we find the Messenger Muhammad (saw) emphasised on the importance of the woman in more than just one place. He encouraged the Muslim man about the necessity to look for a wife with good Deen (practicing woman), who fears Allaah in her relationship with her husband, at his home and with his children.

We believe nobody will differ with us if we say that the Daa’ies are so needy for a unique, sophisticated, special, and magnificent wife unlike any other, who will stand by him through hardship and ease, supporting him, staying at his home helping him to fulfil his roles and responsibilities, encouraging him to carry da’wah more and more and to fulfil his mission.

The wife of a Daa’ie needs to have these qualities because:

1. The daa’ie is different from any other man. His time schedule is not like any others, nor is his concern like the concern of others. Therefore his actions and efforts will inevitably be different from the actions of other men. An average man’s concerns are nothing but his own personal concerns such as food, clothes and shelter. Whereas the daa’ies concerns do not stop to the limit of only a house, food and children but rather his concerns escalates to the level of being concerned about the recovery of the Ummah, to live her concerns and suffering and working actively to change that reality from a state of fear to a state of peace.

2. The normal man does not have any concerns but to seek his provision and to enter happiness into the hearts of his family by fulfilling their wishes. Whereas the work and concerns of the daa’ie will be multiplied and increased to the limit that he will have very little time left to his wife or to his own children, not to mention to be concerned about his health and wealth to a level where his wife may believe that he is neglecting her as he is so busy with the affairs of the Muslim Ummah, more than his own family affairs. Therefore if a Muslim woman does not support her husband who is a daa’ie nor does she have an extra talent that distinguishes her from any other woman, who looks to the concerns and visions of her husband and how much it is more important than any other concern, then no doubt her husband’s ship will face a huge struggle to sail in the ocean of difficulties from the enemies, opponents and disbelievers. And that will be the first nail in their relationship.

Excuse us if we put an example that could relate to you directly but we do not mean any particular person. Let us imagine a daa’ie who comes back to his home after a hard days work, exhausting himself for the sake of calling people to Islaam, commanding good and forbidding evil and elevating this Ummah for the sake of Allaah. Suddenly he finds that when he arrives home, there is a woman who declares her rejection, moaning and complaining about the long time she spends on her own at home or repeats in his ears the same list of complaints and demands and throws them over his head without to bother about the damage that could happen to him, their relationship or the da’wah.

Let us imagine a woman who looks in the face of her husband for a long time and yet she is surprised about the thoughts and ideas that he carries and the amount of energy he has that makes him look after the affairs of the Ummah, which doesn’t concern her at all. I have seen these women who put obstacles in the path of her husband, discouraging him and destroying his will and determination. Moreover she will make him withdraw his concerns, zeal and energy regarding his Deen and the Muslim Ummah and will start to work actively in disperse, discouraging him by letting him down and watering down his responsibilities, which will cause him to have depression. Moreover she will request and demand her husband to do things that are not important, very difficult or nearly impossible to do.

3. The difficulties and the dangers which will occur in the way, the bloody arrows which have been shot towards his chest and all other attacks from all directions will make him seriously need to have beside him a wife that understands the needs of the level of da’wah which he is at, to be patient with him, firm and supportive in his way which is full of thorns, hardship and pain. She must be patient, firm and realise that her husband is not the first and only one who walks on this path full of mines and thorns; rather history is full of men who have paid blood as a price for the da’wah and the Deen of Islam.

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What Is The Dress Of The Woman In The Prayer? By Shaykh Al-Albaani

Posted in General Family Issues, Ibaadah - Salaah, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 22, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

What Is The Dress Of The Woman In The Prayer?

By Shaykh Muhadith, Muhammad Nasir- Deen Al-Albaani

Compiled by: Umm Ayyoob

Noorah bint ‘Ahsan Ghawee

Translated by: Abbas Abu Yahya

Umm Ayyoob quotes some of the narrations which Shaykh al-Albani brings about the permissibility for the woman to pray wearing her house dress (regular home clothing) and a Khimar (head covering) and then he brings the narration that she should wear an outer garment type of covering (e.g. like a Abayyah).

Then the Shaykh says:

‘Then all of this is understood to be, that it is more complete and better for her to wear an outer garment type of covering and Allaah knows best.’

[Mentioned in ‘Tamaam al-Mina Fee Taleeq ala Fiqh-us-Sunnah’ p.161-162]

Umm Ayoob says:‘So in summary: Shaykh Albani -Rahimullaah- holds the opinion that it is recommended for the woman to wear the Jilbaab (Abayyah) on top of her house dress and a head covering for the prayer.  His sources for this are the following:

1- His understanding of the authentic Athaar (narrations) which show that it is sufficient for the woman to wear a house dress and head covering for the prayer.

2- The Shaykh affirms the Athaar which show that the dress of the woman in prayer should be a house dress and head covering along with a Jilbaab or wrapping sheet worn for prayer, or a wrapping garment.

3- Combining between these Athaar which are all authentic, Shaykh Albani concludes that it is recommended for the woman in the prayer to wear a Jilbaab and that it is better and more complete.

This is what the Shaykh established in his book ‘Tamaam al-Mina Fee Taleeq ala Fiqh-us-Sunnah’ however I want to point to an important point about this topic and that is exemplified in that the Shaykh ‘Allaama al-Albani -Rahimullaah- retracted from his saying that of recommendation of  wearing the Jilbaab in the prayer to the opinion of it being obligatory to wear it in the prayer, as it occurs in his book ‘Hijaab al-Marrata al-Muslimah Fee al-Kitab wa Sunnah’ and in the book ‘Jilbaab’ in the last print.

This opinion of it being obligatory, is after his book ‘Tamaam al-Mina’ which affirms the Shaykh’s -Rahimullaah- retraction from the opinion of it being recommended to the opinion of it being obligatory.

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Not Everyone Is Suitable To Be Your Friend

Posted in Brothers Base, General Family Issues, Miscellaneous, Sisters Base, Words Of Wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , , on February 12, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Not Everyone Is Suitable To Be Your Friend

1 – Allah Said:

Ah! Woe to me! If only I had never taken so-and-so as a friend! He indeed led me astray from the Reminder after it had come to me!” [al-Furqan; 28-29]

2 – The Messenger of Allah said:

A person is upon the way of his friend. So, let one of you look to whom he keeps as a friend.

[‘Sahih al-Jami” (3545) and ‘as-Silsilah as-Sahihah’ (927)]

3 – ‘Abdullah bin Ahmad bin Hambal said:

My father went out to Tarsus on foot, and he perfored two or three Hajjs on foot, and he was the most patient of people upon being alone.

[‘Tarjamat al-Imam Ahmad’; p. 18]

4 – Ibn al-Qayyim said:

Know that the greatest of losses is for you to be preoccupied with one who will bring you nothing but a loss in your time with Allah – the Mighty and Majestic – and being cut off from Him, a wasting your time with the person, a weakening of your energy, and the dispersing of your resolve. So, if you are tested with this – and you must be tested with this – deal with him according to how Allah would wish, and be patient with him as much as possible. Get closer to Allah and His Pleasure by way of this person, and make your getting together with him something to benefit from, not something to incur a loss from. Be with him as if you are a man who is on a road who was stopped by another man, who then asks you to take him on your journey. Make sure that you are the one who gives him a ride, and that he is not the one giving you the ride. If he refuses, and there is nothing to gain from travelling with him, do not stop for him, bid him farewell, and do not even turn back to look at him, as he is a highway robber, regardless of who he really is.

So, save your heart, be wary of how you spend your days and nights, and do not let the Sun set before you arrive at your destination.

[‘al-Wabil as-Sayyib’; p. 45]

5 – Ibn Jama’ah said:

So, it is upon the student of knowledge to abandon socialization, as abandoning it is from the most important things that the student of knowledge must do – let alone with members of the opposite gender – especially with those who spend most of their time in play, and spend little of their time in thought, as the nature of individuals can rob you.

The harms of socialization include the passing of life without any benefit, as well as the decline of wealth and religious practice, if this socialization were to occur with the wrong people.

The student of knowledge should not mix except with either those who he can benefit, or can benefit from. And if he is offered the friendship of one who will waste his time with him, will not benefit him, will not benefit from him, and will not assist him in reaching his objective, he should politely end the relationship from the start before it progresses to something deeper, as when something becomes established, it becomes more difficult to change it. There is a phrase that is constantly on the tongues of the Fuqaha’: ‘Repelling something is easier than removing it.’

So, if he requires someone to befriend, let that person be righteous, religious, pious, wary, intelligent, full of benefit, having little evil, good at complying, rarely conflicting, reminding him if he forgets, cooperating with him when he is reminded, helpful if he is in need, and comforting if he is in distress.

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Miracle Young Girl Hafidh of Qur’aan

Posted in General Family Issues, Qur'an, Sisters Base with tags , , , , , , , , on February 8, 2010 by TheAuthenticBase

Miracle Young Girl Hafidh of Qur’aan

Part 1:

Part 2:

Her name is Syeda Uruj Fathima, she has the entire Quran in her memory and is only 8 years old.

As you watch the video the speaker will ask her to read verses from the Quran by just giving the verse numbers and chapter name/number.

He asks her to read specific random parts of chapters.

He then asks her previous verses from the ones she just read.

She also translates any verse from the arabic to urdu – quite amazing considering the Quran has got 114 chapters & 6000+ verses.

If thats not enough later on in the video a person has the Quran infront of him and points to random verses while she is not looking and she is asked to recite which one he is pointing to – amazingly she knows.

They call her the Quran Computer.

Whats more amazing than all this is the Quran itself which contains many miracles, scientific, geographic, astronomical explanations, future predictions. To read the Quran online with translations in various languages go to http://www.quranexplorer.com/quran/