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Using One’s Left Hand For Siwāk

Posted in Adab (Manners), Miscellaneous with tags , , , , on December 10, 2016 by TheAuthenticBase

Ibn Taymiyyah said:

“One should use his left hand when using the siwāk. This is Imām Ahmad’s view as reported by Mansūr Al-Kawsaj in his Masā’il. None of the Imāms held an opposite opinion – as far as I know – for using the siwāk is a way of cleaning oneself just like blowing the nose, cleaning oneself from najāsah and the like; all such acts must be done using one’s left hand.”

[Majmū’ Al-Fatāwā, 21/108]

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Respecting The Scholars

Posted in Adab (Manners), Knowledge with tags , , , , on May 20, 2015 by TheAuthenticBase

NOTE: The reference to ‘scholars’ here refers to those who are upon the haqq, who do not fear the blame of the blamers, who speak the haqq even if it lands them in prison. Likewise the reference to ‘rulers’ refers to those who implement the Law of Allaah without ‘abrogating’ it for man made laws. Those rulers who worship the Kuffaar and do not implement the Shariah are not to be respected.

Ayyoob Ibn Al-Quryah said:

“The people that have the most right to be honored are three: (1) The scholars, (2) the brothers, (3) and the rulers. Therefore whoever has disdain and belittles the scholars has corrupted his manhood. Whoever has disdain and belittles the rulers has corrupted his present life, and the intelligent does not have disdain and belittle anyone.”

[Jaami Bayaan Al-‘Ilm Wa Fadhlihi, 1/46]

Taawoos Ibn Kaysaan said:

“It is from the sunnah to respect four types of people: (1) the scholar, (2) the elder, (3) the ruler, (4) and the father.”

[Musannaf of ‘Abdur-Razaaq, 11/137]

Ash-Sha’abee said:

“Once Zayd Ibn Thaabit led the prayer and then a camel was brought for him to ride. So Ibn ‘Abbaas came and took hold of the camel’s mount (for him to ascend). At this, Zayd told him, ‘Leave it alone, O son of the Messenger of Allaah’s uncle (i.e. cousin).

So Ibn ‘Abbaas replied, ‘This is how we treat the scholars and elders.‘ “

[Majma’ Az-Zawaa’id, 9/345]

‘Alee (ra) Said, “From The Rights Of The Scholar Over You Are…”

Posted in Adab (Manners), Knowledge with tags , , , , , , on May 1, 2015 by TheAuthenticBase

‘Alee Ibn Abee Taalib said:

“From the rights of the scholar over you are:

– Give the salaams to the generalpopulas and specifying them (i.e. the scholar) by greeting them particularly.
– Sit in front of him.
– Do not point at him with your hand.
– Do not cut your eyes at them.
– Do not say that so and so opposes your statement.
– Do not backbite anyone in front of him.
– Do not walk through his sitting.
– Do not grab him by his garment.
– Do not pester him if he is tired.
– And do not turn away from his companionship.

He is like the date palm and you are waiting for something to befall you. The believing scholar has a greater reward than the warrior in the Cause of Allaah. When the scholar dies, a void is created in Islaam that will not be filled until the Day of Resurrection.”

[Al-Jaami Li Akhlaaq Ar-Raawee Wa Aadaab As-Saami’, 1/199]

Having Good Manners When Forbidding The Evil

Posted in Adab (Manners), Brothers Base with tags , , , , , , on September 4, 2014 by TheAuthenticBase

Shaykh ‘Abdullaah ‘Azzaam said:

“Commanding the good and forbidding the evil requires a person who loves the people; a person who looks at the bigger picture; a person with a gentle tongue. Do not come to one and say, ‘I hate you for the sake of Allaah because you do this or that.

Are you not able to say, instead, ‘I love you for the sake of Allaah, my brother. Howevr, I saw a simple and small mistake from you.’”

[Fee Dhilaal Soorah At-Tawbah, p.75]

Being Harsh When Enjoining The Good And Forbidding The Evil

Posted in Adab (Manners), Brothers Base with tags , , , , , , on September 1, 2014 by TheAuthenticBase

Some young people use harsh and cruel methods when trying to guide people, debate with them and call them to give up what is contrary to Sharia. They think that being harsh will give results and deter people, but they forget that being kind and gentle is the original principle that is not to be forsaken until after all gentle and kind means have been exhausted. Gentleness is what yields good results and has an impact on people’s hearts; harshness, on the other hand, puts people off in most cases and makes the transgressor persist in his ways.

It is very strange that these people did not differentiate between the one who transgresses the limit knowingly and the one who does so unknowingly; between the one who promotes innovation and the duped, misguided victim; and between mistakes concerning which there is a difference of scholarly opinion and mistakes on which there is consensus that they are wrong….

They forget that their harsh treatment and refraining from helping deepens the gap between them and people and causes people to go and join the ranks of the deviants who are the enemies of Islam…

Islam’s stance on violence and harshness when calling to Islam and interacting with people is very clear. Allah (swt) says, enjoining Moosa and his brother Haroon:

Go, both of you, to Fir’aun [Pharaoh], verily, he has transgressed [all bounds in disbelief and disobedience and behaved as an arrogant and as a tyrant]. And speak to him mildly; perhaps he may accept admonition or fear [Allah].” [20: 43-44]

These were the instructions of our Lord (swt) to Moosa and Haroon (as) when calling the tyrant Pharaoh: to speak mildly or gently when explaining the truth because it is more beneficial and more likely to be accepted and to instil fear of Allah (swt).

[Taken from “The Life And Times Of ‘Alee Ibn Abee Taalib” by ‘Alee Muhammad As-Sallaabee, p. 309. See also, “Dhaahirat Al-Ghulw Fid-Deen”, Pp. 231-237]

Having Manners When Forbidding The Evil

Posted in Adab (Manners) with tags , , , , , , on August 4, 2014 by TheAuthenticBase

Hasan Al-Bana, may Allaah forgive us and him, said:

“We used to follow this way of commanding the good and forbidding the evil. We had a shaykh who used to teach us and guide us, so one day, I saw him praying between the pillars of the Mosque. So I wanted to advise him that praying between the pillars of the Mosque is disliked (makrooh). So I wrote him a letter and addressed it on behalf of “A Doer of Good”, saying, ‘O Shaykh, I saw you praying between the pillars of the Mosque, and this is disliked, as the Prophet (saw) said.’ I then signed it ‘A Doer of Good’, and sent to him by mail.

He got the letter and read it, then he said, ‘O youth, I have received a letter from a man who advised me not to pray between the pillars of the Mosque, and I did not previously know that it is disliked, so don’t do it.’

I was amongst the youth that he was addressing. So we were able to fulfill a good action without causing any insult or offense to our teacher.”

[Quoted in “Fee Dhilaal Soorah At-Tawbah” by Shaykh ‘Abdullaah ‘Azzaam, p. 75]

Friendship

Posted in Adab (Manners), Brothers Base with tags , , , , , , on July 16, 2014 by TheAuthenticBase

Shaykh ‘Abdullaah ‘Azzaam said:

“A group of friends are all like each other, and the longer the friendship lasts, the closer the character and manners of each person in the group will be to the others. Do not believe that a good person can live for long with a corrupt person, unless the corrupt person improves and follows the example of the good person.

This is why you should look for the good people, and a friend is like a chain: he will either drag you into Paradise, or drag you into Hell. He will either cause you problems or he will help you solve your problems.”

[At-Tarbiyyah Al-Jihaadiyyah Wal-Bina, 5/35]